Lord, have mercy on us that we even have to have these discussions with our kids. If any of you have any comments or things you might have said differently, please share…I’m praying that God would give me wisdom. My girls questions are getting tougher by the day.
Throughout the recent election we learned alot about the candidates, how voting works, and my girls seemed to really enjoy this unit and learning about how our country elects its leaders! Of course, they knew we were voting for John McCain. So, they asked why we didn’t want Obama to win. For the first few conversations, I was pretty vague…I said that each party has alot of things that they stand for, and some of the things Obama wanted were things we didn’t agree with or like. This held them off for awhile…
The questions continued, however, and during the news one evening the word “abortion” came up. I think my heart stopped. David explained to the girls what abortion is. In very simple terms we told them that sometimes a woman has a baby in her tummy and doesn’t want the baby so she decides to kill it. I get tears in my eyes just thinking about the heaviness of this conversation. My 5 and 6 year old daughters should not have to think about the things that are now in their minds…
It has been more than a week since our last discussion about abortion. But, today, Emily woke up from her nap with more questions.
“mommy, if Obama lets people kill babies will he go to jail?” ~~~ no, sweetie, you see alot of people in this country think that abortion is not wrong and they have made laws in different states saying that it is ok.
“mommy, does the mommy have to say it’s ok for them to kill her baby?” ~~~ Oh dear, well, yes…alot of times the mommy doesn’t want a baby. I tried to extend grace here too, by saying that some people don’t realize that the tiny baby inside them is alive…but that is not what we believe and what the Word of God tells us.
“mommy, who is the one that kills the baby?” ~~~ a doctor, which leads to another question “a doctor!! I thought doctors were supposed to help people get better! Does our doctor kill babies?” ~~~ Oh no, dear one, not all doctors will do it – some doctors think it is wrong just like we do.
“mommy, does the mommy hurt when they kill the baby?” ~~~ oh yes, sweet girl, in more ways than one, she will carry that hurt for the rest of her life.
“mommy, why would a mommy not want her baby?” ~~~ well, that one is hard to explain, there might be lots of reasons, but do you know how much your mommy wanted YOU? Do you know that the Bible tells us that God has a plan, a good plan, for every single baby that has ever lived? Every baby…in the womb or out.
“O, Lord, You have searched me and known me. You know my sitting down and my rising up; you understand my thought afar off. You comprehend my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. For there is not a word on my tongue, but behold, O Lord, You know it altogether. You have hedged me behind and before, and laid Your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain it. Where can I go from Your spirit? or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; if I make my bed in hell, behold You are there. If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there Your hand shall lead me, and Your right hand shall hold me. If I say, ’surely the darkness shall fall on me, even the night shal be light about me; indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You, but the night shines as the day; the darkness and the light are both alike to You.
For you formed my inward parts; you covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book, they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them.” Psalm 139: 1-16
One last thing…if there happens to be any lady out there reading my blog who has had an abortion…please know my heart. I do not share my thoughts with you today to condemn you. I do not wish to further your pain. I want you to carefully read those verses from Psalms that I just quoted above. Those things are true of any baby we will ever carry, but dear one, they are true for you too! You are so precious to your Heavenly Father and He longs to forgive you, extend His grace to You and love you.
A friend of mine mentioned how some blogs can be a bit discouraging because the blogger lists all kinds of wonderful, fabulous extraordinary things they do with their kids. It would appear that they might could possibly be super-mom. You know, I can understand that feeling! To be honest, I don’t need any*more* pressure put on me other than what I’m already putting on myself! (and well, truly I don’t even need what I put on myself!)
So, I started thinking about my own blog…am I real? Do I share struggles? Do I only share the great days we have? I think I do share struggles, but mostly concerning spiritaul and emotional things. (well, cause those things probably weigh on my mind more than anything else!) But, I want to be sure, completely sure, that all my readers know that when it comes to homeschooling I most certainly do NOT have it all together! LOL! In fact, I really wanted to drive this point home, so I thought I’d share a picture with you…
This is a picture of our school table from oh, um, 2 minutes ago.
Now, seriously, I wish I could stinkin’ BLOW this picture up to some huge size so that you can see how it looks in *my* eyes. This picture really doesn’t even do it justice, but trust me, there is paper and paper scraps everywhere. This table is just the epitome of where my kids are right now, but gosh does it drive.me.nuts. Very crazy. I’m soooo thrilled that my kids enjoy being creative. Cutting, pasting, coloring. Cutting out again. Did I mention they cut things out and leave tiny scraps of paper under that table like every 5 minutes?!?!
So, there you have it. I cannot keep up with the messes my kids make. Can anyone relate?!?!
I have been slowly working with Caleb on doing little chores in the morning. His list is not nearly as long as the girls, but he does have a few chores that he is capable of! So, today, for the first time, I put up a chore chart for him! He was super excited when he woke up, to see his own chore chart beside the girls pages! He excitedly ran to do each chore and then come back to put the sticker on! I hope his excitement lingers for awhile!
I put pictures on his chart instead of words, so he can know what to do for each one. A bed = make your bed, a shirt = get dressed, dishes = put your dishes in the sink after meals, etc.
He was SO proud after he got done and I praised him for doing all his chores with a happy heart!
This is one of those conversations that made my heart melt…and pound at the same time! I didn’t quite know how to respond to my 3 year old boy. One night before bed this is what Caleb said to me…
Mommy: night night, Caleb. I love you!
Caleb: Mommy, what is love?
Mommy: ummmmmm, welllll….ummm.
Caleb: No mommy, what is love?
Mommy: well, I love you means I care about you, you are very important to me, you are very special to me…(obviously floundering for words here!)
Caleb: but what does “love you” mean?
Mommy: well, it means that mommy loves you verrrrrry much! Now go to sleep!