UPDATE: Here are the items that I placed on my chart today. (Most of these ideas are thanks to moms on the message board I frequent!) We talked about it this morning and began implementing today at lunchtime. I must admit, one of the biggest advantages to this chart is for ME. I end up very frustrated, and thus getting angry, in “the moment” because I often can’t think of an appropriate consequence. This relieves that for me so much! I have already had to implement about 5 times today and so far so good! I haven’t even lost my cool once, hee hee!
*If you say NO to mommy or daddy…then you must pay parents 1 quarter AND say “yes m’am” 5 times
*If you hit your brother or sister…then you must pay your sibling 1 quarter AND give them a hug, apologize
*If you scream in the house…then you must go to your room for 10 minutes and cool down
*If you complain about your chores…then you must do 1 extra chore as given by mom AND recite Phil. 2:14.
*If you do not cooperate during schooltime…then you must write Phil. 2:14 5(Emily) or 10(Hannah) times
*If you tattle on your brother or sister (for something that is not dangerous)…then you must let your brother/sister choose one of your toys to play with for that day
*If you tell brother/sister you don’t like them…then you must do 1 of their chores that day (or next) AND give hug, say “I love you.”
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Some creative “punishments” for my kids…
I want to make an “If/Then” chart. The behavior in our household has gotten out of control. Here are my suggestions so far:
**If you say “no” to mommy or daddy…then you must pay them .25 (money is really big to my kids now since we have started our “allowance” program)
**If you hit your brother/sister…then you must ?? (maybe pay your bro/sis .25??)
**If you complain about your chores…then, ??(I’m thinking of adding an extra chore here, but haven’t completely thought that through)
**If you scream in the house…then, you must go to your room for 10 minutes of “cool down” time.
**If you do not cooperate during schooltime…then, ??
**If you tattle on your bro/sis…then, ?? (Help me think this through. Sometimes it is ok to “tattle” if someone is bleeding, etc. I mean really if someone kicked them hard in the stomach, I want to know that. But I don’t want them tattling everytime someone looks at them, stares at them, touches their bed, etc. How do I differentiate all that?)
These are the biggest things I want to focus on right now, but feel free to add any If/Then rules you have in your house. Or suggestions for helping me with mine. I would like to start this today…if I can get it figured out!