Have you read the book, The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman? This book was really good for me to read a few years ago! And now, I’m on my second read through of the children’s version of this book.
If you have never figured out yours or your spouse’s love language, I highly recommend reading these books!! It can be really eye opening as to how we give and receive love.
I’m having a bit of trouble figuring out my children, though! Has anyone else had this problem? I’ve read through the book twice, and for now, my plan is to show love in their top 2-3 love languages most (cause I think I do have it narrowed down) and I’m continuing to pray for wisdom and discernment.
I just want my children to feel and *know* that I love them, ya know? My oldest is a challenge. She has been strong-willed since before she exited the womb. I admit that often times we clash. My middle child is very lovey, sensitive and easy to please. She also will share her feelings with me, usually. (Though I still don’t think I am for certain as to what her love language is either!!) So, with my oldest, sometimes I wish I had some sure-fire way to do something for her that I know, without a doubt, would show her that I love her.
So, I’m just curious if anyone has any suggestions for me? I know it’s not vital that I know their love language. But, I feel like it really, really improved our marriage and I was hoping it would help me as a mother, too, especially with my oldest daughter.
Any thoughts?
So, I’m curious, too…what is your love language? 🙂
Can you guess what mine is by reading my blog?
I enjoyed this book as well. It can work wonders in relationships. I was, however, disappointed that they didn’t address the issue of people who speak one language and hear another, like my DH.
I have a hard time “reading” my young kids, as well. So we just try to show love in all five languages as much as possible. I’m hoping that we can figure it out someday, though. 🙂
Candace- My strong willed child…also my oldest is a hard one to read too! As he has gotten older it has become a bit easier, but I still don’t have him figured out.
Candace, the language of my two strong-willed children (ages 8 and 5) is Quality Time–hands down! My other 5yo’s love language seems to be Words of Affirmation right now.
Mine? Acts of Service.
I actually have never read the adult version. I had to read this version in college, and I really loved it. My love language is quality time. My hubby’s is words of affirmation. I am still not sure what my children lean towards.