Here’s a Cuppa Grace for you, weary mama!

Hey, mamas, here is a big CUPPA GRACE from one mom in the trenches to the next.
 
It’s been one of those days. It started so beautifully, as seen by my pretty Instagram picture of my Bible and coffee. I was up really early and prayed for my kids and our day. I was feeling all on top of things. Hopeful. Even joyful to be awake so early.
 
And then my kids woke up. It’s sorta been downhill from there.
 
Ahem. You know by now that pictures aren’t always what they seem, right?? You know I love God’s Word and I love my quiet time in the morning but you know I have bad days too?? Today has been one of those days where I have especially questioned every single decision more than I do on other days when I just kind of overthink everything. 😉
 
Maybe we *should* put them in school. Why *did* we give our kids devices? (They are currently without said devices and it may be awhile before they get them back. More second guessing.) How can I really do this mom thing and do it well? What am I thinking? Maybe our relationships would be better if we weren’t together 24/7. Maybe we need a break. Maybe I need a break. Maybe I should start a savings account for all the counseling my kids are going to need. How can I know what would have been better? How can I rest in this decision? Maybe this was a bad decision. Maybe I’ve failed them in this area…and on and on and on.
 
And you know what the answer is to all of my questions? JESUS.
I know this answer and I pray with all my heart that my kids know I’m desperate for Jesus and that I don’t have it all figured out. I hope that when I’m a failure as a mom my failings point them to a God that will never fail them.
 
So, moms who homeschool and moms who chose public school…this grace is for you. Moms who destest devices and moms who love technology in their home…this grace is for you. Moms who have pinterest perfect parties but carry the weight and fear of failure, this grace is for you. Moms who wish they could have pinterest parties, this grace is for you. Moms who don’t care about pinterest parties but just wish they could have any kind of celebration with their child today, this grace is for you. Moms who are doing this alone, this grace is for you.

 
Jesus is FOR YOU. You are loved. I am loved. Let’s show that same love and grace to each other. WE NEED EACH OTHER and that GRACE so desperately. We are all just making our way home. Let’s share a CUPPA GRACE together. <3

Wishing You the Joy of Jesus!

Sweet friends,

Merry Christmas! What a beautiful and blessed time of year. I am lifting up your precious families and asking God to give you His joy this Christmas season. I am asking Him to be the healer of broken hearts, the provider of your needs and the lifter of your heads. May He fill your cups to overflowing today and everyday!!

I’m thankful for you!

xoxo,

Candace

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The Talk: Relationships (Introductory Sale Price)

I am always looking for Biblical resources to teach my kids about life, relationships, and everything in between — like sex. I also love sharing resources with you when I find an excellent one! This new title called The Talk: Relationships is 11 lessons to give kids a greater understanding of Biblical sexuality. It is written for ages 11-14. I admit that this is a hard topic for me to discuss with my kids. So, if you’re like me, this might be a helpful resource for you, too!

This product is launching TODAY and is on sale for $9 in digital format. (Regular price for the digital book will be $11.95.) You can also purchase the hardback copy on Amazon here!

Luke and Trisha Gilkerson are the authors of this new resource and they also have other materials that I have used in the past, too.

More Biblical Resources for Parents

This book is for kids ages 6-10 and introduces basic concepts, such as the differences between male and female anatomy, how babies are conceived and grow in the womb, and the importance of saving sex until marriage.
This book is geared towards kids ages 8-12 and introduces children to the physical and emotional changes that puberty brings.
This book is designed for parents to use with their children ages 11+, Relationships gives parents talking points about how to steward one’s own sexual desires. Topics include information about guarding one’s heart, lust, masturbation, pornography, modesty, homosexuality, and pursuing godly friendships.

What Information is in the Study?

Relationships is a book geared towards kids 11 years old and up. It will delve into a number of topics:

  • Lesson 1 looks at the original goodness of sexuality and marriagerelationships as God created them.
  • Lesson 2 addresses how sin has brought about sexual brokennessinto the world, including our propensity to lust.
  • Lesson 3 exposes the varieties of sexual and relational temptationsin the world: from masturbation to pornography use to homosexual activities.
  • Lesson 4 covers three biblical strategies for avoiding and overcoming lust.
  • Lesson 5 discusses how we should guard our hearts from sexual and relational idolatry.
  • Lesson 6 talks about how we need to make a covenant with our eyes to avoid temptation.
  • Lesson 7 talks about the importance of fleeing sexually tempting situations.
  • Lesson 8 addresses the biblical strategy of pursuing intimacy with God and cultivating gratitude for wholesome pleasures.
  • Lesson 9 discusses the importance of being wise in our opposite-sex friendships.
  • Lesson 10 addresses the value of accountability relationships.
  • Lesson 11 gives students and their parents a picture of the life-transforming grace of God for sexual sinners.

Read more about the entire series from Luke & Trisha Gilkerson!

 

When All You Want To Do Is Fix The Problem…

A Prayer for When You Want To Fix It All

Parenting and homeschooling haven’t come easy to me. (I know, they don’t come easy for you, either.) I am nearly constantly flooded with the thought that I need to find the answer that will solve our problems. Oh, I don’t say it quite like that in my mind…

But, when we have a rough day, I get online and start googling. I ask friends. I look for new programs. I look for a book. I look for an answer.

Yet, God, in His infinite wisdom, whispers to my heart…

“Look to me, I am the answer, gaze at my face and not your problem. I don’t want you to fix your problems, I want to fix your heart.”

I am an over-thinker and a researcher by nature. I want to find the best curriculum. The #1 parenting book. The best way to clean my cabinets. The best remedy for my child’s sickness. An easy fix for my broken heart.

When I get so focused on the problem and trying to fix it, I begin to lose sight of God.

And when I lose sight of God, I lose sight of the fact that He has called me to love my children and not fix them. In fact, He hasn’t called me to fix myself either. Why do I even begin to think that I can? 

Why do I think there is one big answer sitting out there that will solve all my problems? As a mother, I should know by now that life is a journey…my children are on a journey too, they won’t be fixed or perfected with a new discipline method or formula or 3 easy steps.

God is working on their hearts like He is working on mine.

So, let’s make a pact. You and I.

The Vow for All Wanna Be Fixers 

Today, I vow to look more at Christ than I do my problems.

Today, I vow to scroll through God’s Word more than I scroll through social media.

Today, I vow to love my child right where he is and not keep looking at what is wrong with him.

Today, I vow to encourage hearts, mine included, without critically looking at every issue.

Today, I vow to let a trial turn my eyes to Jesus and not google.

Today, I vow to remind myself that I am not the God of the universe sent to fix all my family’s problems.

Today, I vow to preach the gospel to myself because I need the good news as much as my children do.

A Prayer for All Wanna Be Fixers

Lord, we confess to You our shortcomings.

We confess to You that we often try to take Your job by fixing it all.

We acknowledge You as God and trust You as Lord over all.

Help us in our weakness, Father, to relinquish what we think of as control and allow You to lead us and guide us in Your truth.

God, remind us that there is freedom in letting go and trusting You.

You are so trustworthy and faithful.

Amen.

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When I Just Want to Fix It All

 

5 Reasons to Take Your Family on a Mission Trip & Pray For Us!

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In less than one month, God will be answering a prayer of mine that I have prayed for YEARS. If you’ve been a reader of my blog for many years, you may have followed me around the world on mission trips I personally took! I’ve been to Alaska, Hawaii, Belize a few times, and Southeast Asia, as well as other closer-by mission trips.

But I always knew I wanted to take my family.

God has answered. All five of us will be going to Belize in July with a ministry born from folks in our community years ago. Hearts of Christ is a school sponsorship program where people in the U.S. can sponsor a child in Belize to help them receive an education. The requirement of school uniforms, textbooks, supplies and lunches make it impossible for most children to attend school in Belize. So, when you sponsor a child through Hearts of Christ, these children are receiving their uniform, all their books, notebooks and supplies AND the gospel message!

In past trips I have been able to meet the little girl we’ve sponsored for years now. I was blessed to meet her family and see her home. Some of the most memorable moments of my life!

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Pray for My Family

I covet your prayers so as our family travels with a group of 21 others together to Belize! I truly want my family to be a blessing. I want my children to learn compassion for others. I want them to see how a big percentage of this world lives. I want us to be reminded of how blessed we are…and that we are blessed to be a blessing!

Thank you!

And, what is more…I consider YOU a part of this mission trip. For each of you that purchased a bundle through the recent bundle sale, THAT money is helping pay for our trip! For each of you that signed up for local summer piano lessons, THAT money is also helping pay for it! And, any purchase from my shop in June or July is helping pay for it!! WHAT A BLESSING you are to me!!!!

5 Reasons We Are Taking Our Family on a Mission Trip This Summer

Read the 5 reasons on this article I wrote for Crosswalk…