A Plan for the Rainy Days of the Soul

We all have them. Rainy days of the soul. Because we live in a fallen, broken world, it’s just a part of it. Oh but to gaze at the Savior and be reminded of our FUTURE HOPE that one day there WILL be a day with no rainy days of the soul! Praise Him!

Until that day, we need a PLAN. We need to do some battle. Find our armor. Replace the lies with truth.

Choosing joy can be hard. But it can also be simple. Let’s make a list together of the “little things” that bring us joy. I say “little,” but we all know that these little things do bring us moments of joy. And moments of joy lead to a grateful heart and a content spirit.

“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” William Arthur Ward

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A Plan for the Rainy Days of the Soul

The Simple Joys

What are the “little things” that bring you joy? Joy is a fruit of the Spirit…let’s seek it, choose it, fight for it!

What would you add to this list?

  • Memorize Philippians 4:8 (grab this free printable)
  • Meditate on a Psalm
  • Memorize an encouraging passage of Scripture
  • Turn on praise music
  • Have a dance party in your kitchen
  • Read a chapter in a great fiction book
  • Go for a walk
  • Exercise
  • Have a cup of hot tea or coffee
  • Walk outside even for a few moments of fresh air
  • Text a friend
  • Call a friend
  • Write a thank you note to bless someone else
  • Meet a friend for coffee or lunch
  • Watch a favorite feel-good movie
  • Serve someone else
  • Pray
  • Speak the  Name of Jesus aloud
  • Turn on your diffuser with happy, mood boosting essential oils (citrus or joy blend!)
  • Open a bottle of frankincense or joy, take a deep breath and breathe it in
  • Write down 3 things you’re thankful for
  • Start a gratitude journal if you don’t have one
  • Let someone know you are thankful for them
  • Drink more water
  • Eat clean, healthy foods
  • Get out of the house for a little while
  • Have a small piece of dark chocolate
  • Tell someone you love them
  • Preach the gospel to our own hearts (Jesus is the GOOD NEWS)

40 Days of Praise

I’ve been going using the books 31 Days of Praise and 40 Days to a Joy Filled Life. Both such great books for helping us to change our focus and mindset.

What If We Spent the Next 40 Days Cultivating Praise?

“Joy is an outward sign of an inward faith in God’s promises.” Tommy Newberry

What would our lives look like in 40 days if we spent them cultivating PRAISE, GRATITUDE and JOY and not complaints and broken records of failure that often run through our minds?

Praise needs cultivating. Gratitude needs cultivating. Joy needs cultivating. “Could it be that one of Satan’s major strategies is to divert us from praise? After all, he knows that God delights in our praise, and that doesn’t exactly make him happy. He also detests the rich benefits that praise brings to us and others.” Ruth Meyers

I’m a day late and a dollar short for starting Lent on time (February 14th) but isn’t that what Lent is all about? Lent is about offering myself to Him in all my weakness and depending on His strength. When I am weak, He is strong.

I don’t have a set schedule, but every week I will hop on sometime live on my facebook page to share thoughts from these 2 books: 40 Days to a Joy Filled Life and 31 Days of Praise.

“I will bless the Lord at all times, His praise shall continually be in my mouth. My soul shall make its boast in the Lord; the humble shall hear of it and be glad. Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt His name together.” Psalm 34:1-3

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My Favorite Essential Oils for Emotional Wellness

**I am not a medical professional nor am I giving medical advice. I am only sharing my personal story and the things that have helped me. Please always, always consult with your medical doctor before trying to wean off of any type of medication.

One of my very favorite benefits of essential oils is the support they have been for my emotional wellness. If you’ve read my blog for long you know that I need all the help I can get. ha! For the first time in many, many years my moods are no longer the roller coaster they used to be on a nearly daily basis. Praise God!

The combination of eating well, exercising, changing my mindset, and using essential oils and supplements has been LIFE CHANGING for me.

I shared earlier this week about the very specific things I did that allowed me to successfully get off my anti-depressants and also lose 42 pounds over the last year.

Today I want to share this list of my favorite essential oils for emotional wellness!

Why do essential oils work so well to support healthy emotions?

Your sense of smell is the only sense that goes STRAIGHT to the part of your brain where all your emotions are stored. You can google limbic system, essential oils and the amygdala, or anything similar and a lot of things will come up! Your emotions, your memory, your hormones are all right in this small part of your brain…so it just makes sense that when you SMELL something it is going to either help or make you frustrated (like when you smell rotten trash!)

Think about a memory that you have that is associated with a smell. Does baking chocolate chip cookies remind you of your grandmother? Does a certain kind of lotion make you think of your aunt? This is your limbic system at work!!

So, instead of smelling and breathing in toxins all day long (candles, air fresheners, room sprays) choose HEALTHY things like essential oils — from God’s pharmacy — to not only make your house smell good but also HELP SUPPORT YOUR EMOTIONS at the same time!

My Favorite Essential Oils for Emotional Wellness

This list shows you my favorite oils and HOW I use them!

My Favorite Oils for Emotional Wellness PDF

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My Journey Off of Anti-Depressants

**I am not a medical professional nor am I giving medical advice. I am only sharing my personal story and the things that have helped me. Please always, always consult with your medical doctor before trying to wean off of any type of medication.

Three babies in three years proved to be a lot for my body. My physical, emotional and spiritual health all went a little haywire. What started as possible post-partum depression spiraled out of control when I didn’t know what was wrong or deal with it for over a year. Eventually, I would visit my doctor who recommended counseling and an introduction to a psychiatrist, all three of which I continued seeing over the course of the next few years.

I was on anti-depressants, anti-anxiety meds, and prescription sleep meds for over 7 years. You can read more about my journey through that season of my life here.   My journey on AND off them was one of the hardest things I’ve faced. I can now say, several years later, that it was WORTH the months of withdrawal symptoms. I feel better TODAY than I ever did ON all the meds. I often say that I feel like anti-depressants, while they helped at first, stole my personality and several years of my life. I wasn’t super low, which was great, but I also didn’t feel excitement or happiness or cry much when I should have cried. God made us with emotions and I don’t think He intended for them to be stifled for years on end. In addition to not experiencing healthy emotions, I also gained 35 pounds, became pre-diabetic, had no energy to live out my calling as a wife & mom and just didn’t have joy.

Everything that was supposed to be helping me feel better was in fact making me feel worse. 

I very, very slowly came off my meds, taking months of smaller amounts each day along with the help and advice of my doctor. The withdrawal symptoms I experienced were horrendous. Since the time I came off of my meds I have found essential oils and began using them to support my emotional well being. However, when I was weaning off of my meds I did NOT have essential oils yet. I deeply wish I would have had them years ago  after I had my babies to help me on this journey!

I am going to share with you the things I have done as far as supplements, lifestyle and essential oils in the last 2 years to regain my health and my joy. My hope and prayer is that something you read will encourage you and bless you on this journey.

I also want to mention that there was not only ONE thing that helped me on this journey. I truly believe it was the combination of things I am listing below that helped me to achieve emotional wellness, weight loss (42 pounds so far,) have more energy and get good sleep.

One last thing before I share the tools I’m using…my journey won’t be your journey. Your journey and your story are just that: yours. I know many of you on this journey are struggling…please know that I am praying for you. But please don’t read anything in this post with condemnation or guilt for being in a different place. Trust that God has a good plan for your life and that may look different than mine!

The Essential Oils I Use

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Frankincense – if you could only use one oil on your journey to emotional wellness I would suggest this one. I use frankincense daily in multiple ways. I put a drop in my face lotion each morning and sometimes again at night. I  put a drop on my thumb and press it to the roof of my mouth. Ingesting this frankincense is going to be the best way to get it in your system quickly. If you are really having a hard time, diffuse frankincense at night beside your bed. (I only recommend ingesting oils that you know the source of. I know and trust Young Living oils and those are the oils I am talking about in this post. Most cheap oils from the grocery store are gong to be adulterated so please be cautious!)

Orange & Bergamot – all citrus oils are REALLY good for mood. I put them in my diffuser daily. Orange and bergamot happen to be my favorites, but you may enjoy other citrus oils and they will be just as helpful.

Progessence Plus – my hormones were really messed up. I used to have very long, terrible cycles. In high school I would often throw up once a month. Progessence Plus has taken away every single PMS symptom I have. I no longer have cramps, my cycles are a regular length, I can now leave my house during my time of the month with no issues.

Joy – many, many people I know have helped their moods significantly by using the Joy oil blend. I did not use this blend right away but I want to mention it because it is a very powerful blend! It is one you should consider trying. If you don’t love the strong smell, I suggest adding orange to make it a little sweeter.

All the oils – Any and all oils MULTIPLE times a day! I truly believe that all high quality essential oils help support our emotions. If you research how our sense of smell works in that it goes straight to the part of our brain where our limbic system, amygdala and the seat of our emotions are located, it begins to make sense that essential oils work so well.

**I would love to help you get started with essential oils and help take the overwhelm out of trying something new. I will also gift you $25 back in February if you decide to try a starter kit and join my team! Head here to order your kit! 

The Supplements I Use

Ningxia – Ningxia is good for so many things, but for me in particular it gives me energy and also helps with stress management feelings of overwhelm. Ningxia is a powerful super fruit juice supplement with a lot of antioxidants, more than we can get in our daily diet. Many people have had great success with Ningxia and inflammation. 

Immupro – I take this at night before bed and for the first time in 15 years I am waking up rested and ready to go for the day! This supplement also has the wolf berry in it as well as melatonin. It helps me fall asleep and then get better quality sleep.

Life 9 – this is Young Living’s probiotic. Being on a good quality pro-biotic is much needed by all of us. So many of our health concerns start in the gut. Even depression. So healing our guts and cleaning up our diet can have a huge impact on our emotions!

Lifestyle Changes I Have Made

Diet – Eliminating grains, sugars and processed foods has been huge for me. When I eat a big plate of pancakes or waffles or biscuits, etc, I can tell the next day I feel poorly. And it isn’t really intolerable at that point, but if I keep eating that way every single day, I will be feeling very irritable, moody, bloated and tired all the time. This leads to a bad spiral for me. I eat meat, fruits, veggies, nuts, cheese, lots of smoothies and also Balance Complete shakes from Young Living with Coconut Milk. Food is medicine and I have learned that HUGE lesson in the last year. (I started off with Whole 30 but don’t follow it 100%.) 

Exercise – so many studies show that regular exercise is more powerful than anti-depressants. I will add that when I added in strength training, it was even more beneficial for my mental health. I handle stress SO much better when I’m exercising regularly. I typically only exercise 2-3 times a week too! I will walk/jog intervals for 30 minutes and then do hand weights and machines for 30-40 minutes each time.

Sleep – not sleeping well can impact so many things. All of these areas of our lives (hormones, sleep, diet, exercise, emotions) they ALL work together. If you aren’t sleeping well, you need to work on fixing that pretty quickly on this journey. For me, going OFF of prescription sleep meds and getting my life HEALTHY has been the BIGGEST help for my sleep. I think because I exercise and have energy to actually live a full life I am probably more tired at night. I’m not eating so many foods that are bad for me and would keep me awake. My hormones are more balanced than they used to be. And I use Immupro from Young Living to help me fall asleep. Some people that don’t have as drastic of sleep issues as I’ve had can use oils (lavender, cedarwood, frankincense) for sleep help, but that wasn’t enough for me when I started this journey.

Mindset & Gods Word

I wanted to end with this because I saved the best for last. Were it not for the grace of God, I would be right back where I was 11 years ago. But I also want you to know that I fully believe that the power of the Holy Spirit living in me has been transforming me from the inside out…I was willing and I was ready.

God’s Word tells us that He will transform us by the renewing of our mind. He tells us we are new creations. He has new mercies for us every morning. He has not given up on you, so why do you give up on yourself?

Part of this whole transformation process was the fact that I had to CHOOSE to BELIEVE that GOD IS ABLE. I had to BELIEVE God and His promises. I had to CHOOSE to change the negative thought train that had been happening in my brain for all of my life up until 2017.

If you struggle with not being able to get the negative thoughts out of your head, I encourage you to begin reading, studying, meditating on the Word of God. Memorize Philippians 4:8. ASK GOD to help you BELIEVE what HE says about you! Focus on what is TRUE, lovely, noble and right.

You are loved.

You are chosen.

You are a new creation in Christ.

Practice Gratitude

Gratitude takes practice.

I recently shared 20 reasons it is good for us to practice gratitude.

Gratitude takes practice. And that’s actually a good thing. Did you know that when we learn to physically stop our mind in the middle of an anxious thought and CHOOSE to think about something we are thankful for it does something inside our brains? We can actually re-train our brains.

This is powerful information, y’all. I’m not saying it will be easy. But God made us to be renewed, changed, transformed…He never created us to leave us as we are. The very act of PRACTICING gratitude can have a powerful impact on our minds, our physical health and our emotions. Practice means a repeated activity to improve some certain skill. Practice doesn’t usually mean “easy” but it will get easier eventually. Start today. When you begin to worry, recognize it and instead make yourself start naming things you are thankful for.

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer & petition, WITH THANKSGIVING, take your requests to God, and the PEACE OF GOD, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7.

Stop for a moment. Stop the racing thoughts. Stop the worry. Take a deep breath and start naming (or even writing) your blessings. The big things, the small things.

Gratitude just might change your life.